Whip Queen has been married way too long and has uncovered the secrets of keeping combat away from home. Can't get what you want from the relationship? Ask her and she'll tell you how to manipulate even the most headstrong. She's got the three S's down: sassy, savvy and sexy. This Mediterranean Goddess knows how to use the strap and keep them begging for it.
Whip Queen
ADD A LITTLE OOMPH TO YOUR "OOOs"
Dear Whip Queen,
I've been in a monogamous relationship with my current boyfriend for over
3 years. I love him very much and still find him attractive but lately I find
myself fantasizing about other men.
HELP! Why am I doing this? I'm consumed by guilt and doubting
my ability to stay faithful.
Signed, Fantasy Island in my Head
Dear Fantasy Island,
There is nothing wrong with fantasizing. Everybody does it,
even though most won't admit it. Just because you do it doesn't
mean you don't love your boyfriend of he doesn't fulfill you
sexually anymore.
Fantasies are a very important part of a sexual relationship.
So you saw a handsome stranger on the subway and had recurring fantasies of the two of you doing it, um, like they do on the discover channel?
It's completely normal to find somebody else
attractive. That doesn't mean that you're a slut or will jump
the stranger (I hope). In my books, it means you have a good
sex drive and a healthy imagination.
If you let it, fantasizing will add a little
oomph to your Oo's.
As long as you have personal boundaries and
are in a strong healthy relationship, fantasizing isn't going
to make you cheat.
Depending on your beau and your relationship you might be surprised to find out that your fantasies turn him on. Have you ever thought of sharing them with him? Be prepared to hear some of this own.
Fantasizing about other men and staying faithful are two completely different issues.
Being faithful has to do with self-respect. Fantasizing about other men is completely normal and simply put, purely a means of pleasure.
Signed, Whip Queen
SLEPT AROUND? TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL
Dear Whip Queen,
I've slept with more men than I can count on my two hands. I don't think
that makes me seem promiscuous but my man might not agree with me. If he asks
what should I say?
Signed, need more fingers.
PS: this is a new relationship.
Dear Fingers,
Well, this topic has come up many of times.
Some people believe it's the best to say 3.
"My first love in high school, my first serious relationship
in college and now you honey." I think that's bullshit. It doesn't work.
First of all why would you want to start off a relationship lying and second of all, what if your 35? Do the math - it doesn't work most of the time.
Please be careful that this isn't a sign that
your boyfriend has issues with the way he sees women.
You can solve this puzzle by telling him the
truth and if he can't handle it or if you don't like his reaction,
ditch him, you're saving yourself from alot of heartache in
the future.
Now, I don't condone lying but I am a firm
believer that men don't need to know everything.
What they don't know won't hurt them!
If you don't feel comfortable telling him that your lovers are in double digits then don't tell him.
Tell him that you never tell (promise to yourself
that cannot be broken- and of course he wouldn't want you
to break it) or start laughing and say like "Oh, God to many
to count!!" He'll probably think you're joking.
Signing off for this week, Whip Queen.
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