Whip Queen has been married way too long and has uncovered the secrets of keeping combat away from home. Can't get what you want from the relationship? Ask her and she'll tell you how to manipulate even the most headstrong. She's got the three S's down: sassy, savvy and sexy. This Mediterranean Goddess knows how to use the strap and keep them begging for it.
Whip Queen
Dear Whip Queen,
How can I get my partners at my beck and call without putting out?
Signed chafed and sore.
Dear Chafed and Sore,
Exactly how many partners are we talking about?
See the trick is to keep them guessing on what they could get. Give them a sneak preview of what you have to offer. If they’re in the house with you, walk around in something revealing or take a nice luxurious bath with the door opened. If they are on the phone, end the call with something that has a sexual connotation to it (e.g. "Oh James, you always make me so hot, gotta go!" But keep in mind that this will only work if you truly feel like the sexy woman that your are. Wear sexy underwear even if your wearing jeans, lather your body with a silkening body lotion, have a glass of wine while your taking a bath and light some candles, read an erotic book and enjoy your sexuality. If you feel sexy, you will start portraying that without even knowing it. And what does a man long for more than anything: a confident sexy woman! You don't want to put out well why not? Go ahead and celebrate your womanhood!
If you don't want to put out because you’re not enjoying it why are you wasting your time on these partners?
Dear Whip Queen,
I find it impossible to approach my partner about anything without putting them on the defensive. My approach has been compared to Johnny Cochrane (O.J. Simpson's former lawyer) I do not find this flattering, nor do I find my technique effective. Any advice?
Signed, The Grand Inquisitor
Dear Grand Inquisitor,
Your partner thinks your tactics resemble Mr. Cochran's and you find this unflattering? This can work for you! Who can forget how persuasive he was? All you have to do it approach your partner in a way that keeps him from getting defensive.
"If the glove doesn't fit, you must acquit" If your techniques aren't working adopt new ones. In my experience, I have found that being aware of your 2T’s (tone & timing) is key to making a disagreement go your way and diffusing an argument.
Be aware of your tone. Most of the time it’s not what we say but how we say it. Feel free to be passionate about what you are saying, there’s nothing wrong with expressing yourself (but remember voices don't need to be raised and please no fists slamming on tables). These strange three legged creatures (yes, men) are programmed to pick up on our tones before our words. If they detect an aggressive tone they’ll want to end a conversation before it actually begins (e.g. your yelling again and I'm not in the mood for this, I’ve had a long day -not now, my head is killing me this will have to wait). Capture their attention first. Who needs combat?
Key point to remember: we can still fool them by faking a great orgasm (if for some uncanny reason we chose too) but fake a tone and.. bang, they catch it. So if you’re not in the mood for conflict but feeling a little ornery to care about your tone, postpone approaching you partner.
Timing. Timing is everything! When you need to discuss something pick a time that you feel will be the least effected by his mood. Early in the day "do you need to demoralize me first thing in the morning" and at night "do you need to demoralize me before I go to bed". You know him well (I hope) so capture the right moment.
Now remember that being aware of your 2T’s doesn't always work. Most of the time you’ll want to yell, scream and threaten (2T’s out the window but who gives a shit at this point) but if your serious about something and you feel its worth a fair fight, this will help you.
Contact the Whip Queen at 5a7@avivalasvegas.com. Make sure to put Whip Queen in the subject
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